The ones that surprise you always.
Like your best-friend-from-college leaves without even a call to say bye. How weird is that.
As they say, expectation brings in disappointment.
oh well , what i wanted to note down is that most unlikely of all people I have met with in the last few months have ended up being one of the closest friends I have.
S from work place, C from Paris and a very distant cousin Sa. All these women have interests in life that are as different from mine as possible. One works for money, another because she does not know any other way, and Sa does not work and had left 1 child in a different country!
My first reaction to interacting with all 3 of them i remember was god i hope i dont have to deal with you on a regular basis. Somehow the honesty in their talk and work has changed things around.
So the lesson is to be less judgemental especially of strangers. Everyone has a reason to be who they are.
While on friends, I read random data somewhere from a random research that a child is most influenced by her friends. Parents, no matter how much effort they put in, have a meagre 10% or lesser influence on how the child will turn out to be.
I want my child to be very self aware. take responsibility for her decisions, good and bad both.Basically deal with her life and live without regret.
While thinking of an action plan for this, I came up with a list of things I could do so she would be influenced in that direction.
1. Find a group of like minded parents (am sure Prash and I are not the only ones who want this for their child? ya?) and let K hang out with them. Duh! deadend in first step. I find it so hard to find and connect with any other parent that the probability of this happening is not a convincing number.(this is also because its a time intensive exercise that needs one to go out and about with a lot of parents and filter out. Frankly neither of us has the time or patience to do that at the moment and when we will eventually, K will be a teenager probably living on her own!)
2. My new plan is to be her friend myself rather than a parent. This experiment is underway and feels a bit unnatural. Since my first reaction to things is that of a 30+ adult who is corrupted by knowledge and not that of a 4+ carefree kid. Prash might have a higher success rate I am guessing. Only time and K will tell.
On another note, my art skills and ability to think arty is increasing exponentially being with her. Like for example for Prash's bday we took a used tennis ball and glue so she could make it a gift for him by sticking happy birthday on it (using a tennis ball was my idea, gluing letters was hers). I told her lets bake a cake and wish him at midnight. As usual that opened a series of what is, why is questions starting with what is midnight. To which i said its when his birthday will start.
K: if its at midnight why are you calling it birthday. bubby is funny!
It took me more than a couple of seconds to realise what she was saying actually.
Talking to 4 year olds can lead to so many existential questions these days really!
I am liking being friends with her more than being her mother. At least momentarily I let go of everything.
Like your best-friend-from-college leaves without even a call to say bye. How weird is that.
As they say, expectation brings in disappointment.
oh well , what i wanted to note down is that most unlikely of all people I have met with in the last few months have ended up being one of the closest friends I have.
S from work place, C from Paris and a very distant cousin Sa. All these women have interests in life that are as different from mine as possible. One works for money, another because she does not know any other way, and Sa does not work and had left 1 child in a different country!
My first reaction to interacting with all 3 of them i remember was god i hope i dont have to deal with you on a regular basis. Somehow the honesty in their talk and work has changed things around.
So the lesson is to be less judgemental especially of strangers. Everyone has a reason to be who they are.
While on friends, I read random data somewhere from a random research that a child is most influenced by her friends. Parents, no matter how much effort they put in, have a meagre 10% or lesser influence on how the child will turn out to be.
I want my child to be very self aware. take responsibility for her decisions, good and bad both.Basically deal with her life and live without regret.
While thinking of an action plan for this, I came up with a list of things I could do so she would be influenced in that direction.
1. Find a group of like minded parents (am sure Prash and I are not the only ones who want this for their child? ya?) and let K hang out with them. Duh! deadend in first step. I find it so hard to find and connect with any other parent that the probability of this happening is not a convincing number.(this is also because its a time intensive exercise that needs one to go out and about with a lot of parents and filter out. Frankly neither of us has the time or patience to do that at the moment and when we will eventually, K will be a teenager probably living on her own!)
2. My new plan is to be her friend myself rather than a parent. This experiment is underway and feels a bit unnatural. Since my first reaction to things is that of a 30+ adult who is corrupted by knowledge and not that of a 4+ carefree kid. Prash might have a higher success rate I am guessing. Only time and K will tell.
On another note, my art skills and ability to think arty is increasing exponentially being with her. Like for example for Prash's bday we took a used tennis ball and glue so she could make it a gift for him by sticking happy birthday on it (using a tennis ball was my idea, gluing letters was hers). I told her lets bake a cake and wish him at midnight. As usual that opened a series of what is, why is questions starting with what is midnight. To which i said its when his birthday will start.
K: if its at midnight why are you calling it birthday. bubby is funny!
It took me more than a couple of seconds to realise what she was saying actually.
Talking to 4 year olds can lead to so many existential questions these days really!
I am liking being friends with her more than being her mother. At least momentarily I let go of everything.
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